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Please Don’t Say My Name

“But so that we may not cause offense, go to the lake and throw out your line. Take the first fish you catch; open its mouth and you will find a four-drachma coin. Take it and give it to them for my tax and yours.”  Matthew 17:27 (NIV)

Please don’t say my name

“Mom, please don’t say my name when you cheer at my football games.” At first, I thought I didn’t hear correctly so I asked my ten-year-old son Nathan to repeat his request. He repeated, “Please don’t say my name when you cheer for me.”

My mama’s heart felt a little sad but I responded that I would honor his request. I then asked, “Well, can I say ‘Go Vikings’ and cheer that way?” Nathan gave me his permission to do that but reminded me again to not say his name. “Mom, I know your voice so I know you’re cheering for me.”

After picking up the rest of my family to head to the game, I shared with my husband Jonathan about my conversation with Nathan. I wanted him to be aware of not saying Nathan’s name while cheering at his football game.

Showing Love

I also shared with Jonathan how hard this was going to be for me. You see, to me cheering means that I support and love my son. By not cheering for Nathan, I feel like I am not showing my love for him.

The truth is that Nathan feels most loved when I cheer for his team without saying his name. As I reflected on this, I realized that when we love people the way we want to be loved, we aren’t fully loving them and we are just thinking about ourselves.

Ouch! I don’t want to be the kind of that kind of person. I want to be someone who puts others first and focuses on how I can love them.

 

The Greatest Example

One of the greatest examples of this kind of love is Jesus. Today, I want to look at one of my favorite stories in the bible to see this love in action.

Peter just came from a conversation with the collectors of the temple tax.  They wanted money and questioned Peter about his teacher (Jesus) paying the temple tax. Peter went to the house to talk to Jesus about it.

I love that Jesus already knew how Peter was questioned. He was ready with a lesson of his own for Peter. Jesus knew Peter intimately and knew how to reach his heart and love him well.

 

Go Fishing

Jesus didn’t want to offend the tax collectors of the day, so He provided tax money for both Peter and himself. How did He provide it? By asking Peter to go fishing.

But so that we may not cause offense, go to the lake and throw out your line. Take the first fish you catch; open its mouth and you will find a four-drachma coin. Take it and give it to them for my tax and yours.”  Matthew 17:27 (NIV)

I bet Peter probably wondered “Why fishing?” I believe Jesus wanted Peter to do something he was very familiar with so Peter wouldn’t be distracted by the details.

 

Love like Jesus

How can we love like Jesus? Get to know the people around us by learning their love languages. Do they enjoy gifts? Pick a gift out for them.

How about Acts of Service? What can you do to serve your friend or family member? Maybe they feel loved when you spend quality time with them. Block out time on your calendar for an outing with your friend or family member.

Physical touch is another love language that most children desire. Hug your child several times a day. If they aren’t too old, give them some kisses too. If your spouse’s top love language is physical touch make it a priority to give them a hug several times a day.

 

Let’s Go Vikings!

I must report that I didn’t say Nathan’s name the whole game. Only “Go Vikings!” and “Let’s go Vikings and “Let’s go defense.” It was really hard for me not to yell out Nathan’s name. I may have bit my tongue a time or two to keep it in. I am going to keep working on cheering that way Nathan asked me to because I want to speak love.

Ask your friends and family what speaks love to them and practice doing it. Even if it doesn’t feel natural to you. Practice speaking their love language until it feels more comfortable.

Your friends and family will appreciate it. What is one way you can speak love to your husband or a friend today? How can you speak love to your children today?

 

Heavenly Father, thank You for knowing me and loving me in the way I need it. Lord, I want to love as You do. Please teach me how to love my family and friends in the ways they want to be loved. Thank you for helping me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

 

*If you need help determining your spouse or friend’s love language, ask them to take the 5 Love Language test found HERE.

*Ask your children to take the 5 Love Language Test for Children found HERE.

 

Please Don't Say My Name

1 Comment

  1. Naomi Silliman on March 12, 2019 at 5:20 pm

    This was such a great reminder! I’m going to have my youngest take the love language test. Thank you for adding the link for the test ????

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