Comparison. We all struggle with it whether or not we want to admit it. Deep down we think and sometimes say out loud “I wish I had her body shape” or “I wish I had a life like her then things would be all better.” In Why Her? author Nicki Koziarz takes a hard look at comparison and shares six truths we all need to hear to combat it. Today, I will share three reasons to read Why Her?

You have been disappointed

Nicki Koziarz talks about the bible story of the two sisters Leah and Rachel and the comparison involved. I have always felt sorry for Leah. In reading this book, I gained a new appreciation for Leah. She experienced a lot of disappointment in her life. Maybe you can relate? But, Leah learned to move past comparison in her situation by “this time” praising God in the birth of her fourth son.

Disappointments happen in life. We all have faced them and some of us are facing them now. As I read Why Her? I was challenged by this quote: “When our circumstances don’t change, we only have two choices: settle and pout, or shift and praise.” In my disappointments, I want to shift and praise. I love how the author encouraged us with “this time” affirmations to help us praise.

3 Reasons to Read Why Her?

You desire breakthrough

The greatest breakthroughs often come from sorting through the ruins of a breakdown.” – Nicki Koziarz

Have you ever faced a situation where you wanted a breakthrough? Maybe you find yourself in that situation now. Instead of letting it pull us down, Nicki encourages us to get up and go through it. Sort through the ruins and see what God has for you. In Why Her? Nicki shares three decisions you can make to lead you to the breakthrough. As I read these decisions, I felt challenged and encouraged.

You are weary

Each time comparison turns into jealousy, and from there turns into bitterness, our souls get a little more unwell. It prevents us from living confidently in who God created us to be.” – Nicki Koziarz

What does your soul look like today? Is it well or unwell? Nicki encourages us that we are the only ones who can take care of our souls. So, when you are feeling weary look for clues as to where you are filling up with something other than God. Where are you comparing yourself to someone else? And then use the soul care strategy to help you push through to breakthrough. Nicki shares this soul care strategy in the book and it is so good!!

Which of the three reasons to read Why Her? resonated with you the most today? It is a powerful book that takes you on a journey towards freedom from comparison.


I think you would really like Why Her? In fact, I am doing a giveaway. Yay! For your chance to win a copy of Why Her? simply share why you’d love to read the book in the comments below. Please comment by Monday, March 12, at 11:59 pm. EST I will choose a winner on Tuesday, March 13. Thank you!

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  1. Martha Mishler on March 7, 2018 at 12:15 pm

    I think the disappointment and weary parts resonated most with me today. I have recently been struggling with a relationship that has left me feeling both of these things! Disappointed over some decisions that have been made and weary of the drama involved.

    Just last week at my mottts group we talked about comparison. Maybe God’s trying to teach me something??

  2. Melissa Johnston on March 7, 2018 at 6:40 pm

    I believe this book will help me because i set such a high bar for myself with everything when I should measure myself against God’s requirements. God should be my focus and learning how He sees me.

  3. Mandy on March 8, 2018 at 7:01 am

    So often I find myself on the slippery slope of comparison….book seems intriguing. Would love advice for a new mindset…

  4. Naomi Johnson on March 8, 2018 at 1:53 pm

    Wow this book sounds amazing! I have heard comparison breeds discontentment. I am interested in how this book will show how it can breed discouragement and see it from a biblical framework.

  5. John Darr on March 8, 2018 at 6:52 pm

    All 3, we have a 12 year old; we are trying to work with her about how other people see her and it’s not about the name brand clothes she wants. I think this would be a great book for her as she’s heading into her teen years. Thank you. John Darr

  6. Shaila Swartz on March 9, 2018 at 9:14 am

    I want to read Why Her because you recommended it and I love Nicki Koziarz’s writing. I have a goal of reading one book a month and this year so far I’ve read 5! God has really encouraged and gifted me with time to read and the passion to learn new things. I especially would love to learn more about breakthroughs as there is one see if my life that I’ve been praying for. Thanks for this giveaway. It will bless someone greatly!

  7. Liz on March 9, 2018 at 3:41 pm

    I can always use a good reminder to shift my thoughts toward praise! I’d love to read this book for more insights on that! It sounds fabulous!

  8. Carla on March 10, 2018 at 1:27 am

    I hadn’t thought about the disappointment and comparison connection quite like this. Sounds like something to investigate more.

  9. melanie H on March 10, 2018 at 2:39 am

    I’d love this book because this is something I struggle with

  10. Rebekah Hargraves on March 12, 2018 at 1:33 am

    I would love to when a copy of this book because as a blogger and podcaster, I seriously struggle sometimes with comparing myself to the success of others in the same fields and wondering why I’m not at the same place. Thank you for offering the giveaway! ????

  11. Sarah on March 12, 2018 at 2:48 pm

    I would love to read this book because I really struggle with comparison. I need to learn more biblical truth to fight these thoughts. Excited for the chance to win it!!

  12. Lael Nafziger on March 12, 2018 at 5:03 pm

    Would love to read this book, mostly because I deal with many teenage girls that are driven by this game and I want to have more resources to help them! It’s a good reminder and you are a great resource for encouraging others to be their best in Christ!! 🙂

  13. Michelle on March 13, 2018 at 12:47 am

    The breakthrough is what hit me the most. Looking for one in my life for a certain situation that I hope would lead me better to it.

  14. Naomi Johnson on March 14, 2018 at 5:22 am

    I would love to read this book because it highlights disappointments and comparison two hard topics. It sounds like it would help us learn to be more gracious and truthful when these two areas of challenge come. It highlights a story from the Bible.

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