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5 Habits for a Stronger Marriage
18 years full of ups and downs. But, I wouldn’t trade those years for anything. Jonathan and I have grown closer than ever before and I can honestly say I love and respect Jonathan more.
These past 18 years have been a lot of work but so worth it. How have we stuck with it? I firmly believe we have a stronger marriage because of these 5 habits.
The first habit for a stronger marriage is praying together. Pray together every day in the morning, evening or both. Why pray? It connects you to the ultimate source of strength and wisdom, God.
Prayer is recognizing you need God and you can’t do it alone. It puts God at the center which helps your marriage be stronger.
In the morning, Jonathan and I ask each other what we can pray about for the day. Here are some questions we use:
What challenges are you facing today?
What could you use more of today? (Ex. Wisdom, peace, strength.)
We generally end the evening with prayer too after the next habit for a stronger marriage.
2. Read the Bible together
The second habit for a stronger marriage is read the bible together. Why? It connects your hearts with God’s truth. Reading the Bible helps you to hear God’s voice and learn about ways to be more like Him. Which in turn strengthens your marriage.
Jonathan and I have used many devotionals over the years for our devotion time. Here are a few of the titles we have used:
Moments Together for Couples by Dennis & Barbara Rainey
Draw Close by Willard & Joyce Harley
My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers
15 Minute Devotions for Couple by Bob & Emilie Barnes
Recently, we have started using a Bible Reading plan from YouVersion. It has been so fun to go deeper into God’s Word. We are currently using the Deeper into Scripture: 14 Day plan.
Find a devotional book you both like or a bible reading plan. Take time to be in God’s word together and your marriage will be stronger.
3. Date Nights/Weekend Getaways
The third habit for a stronger marriage is Date nights and Weekend Getaways. Date nights are time to just be a couple and focus on connecting with one another. There are so many options on the how so you will need to do what works best for your family in the season of life you are in. Read this post to learn how we have made weekly date nights work.
Weekend Getaways are also very important to do. It’s time away from the normal grind of life to connect with one another. Every year Jonathan and I get at least one night away for our wedding anniversary. It’s a wonderful break in the routine of life.
4. Couch time
The fourth habit for a stronger marriage is Couch time. This is a focused time to sit together on the couch when you are both home, usually at the end of the workday.
During this time, share about each other’s days. It’s a great way to connect with one another after a full day.
One key for this couch time is that it is just the two of you. Train your kids not to bother you during this time. It takes time to train them but your marriage is worth it.
Remind your kids that this is Mommy and Daddy time. Couch time actually helps children to feel more secure because they see you together.
Jonathan and I love Couch time though we aren’t as consistent as we would like to be. We spend anywhere from 5-15 minutes talking on the couch. The questions we most often ask are: What is a high from today? What was your low or a challenge you faced today?
We also share whatever happened that day. It’s a good time to catch each other up to speed on the rest of the night too.
5. Speak highly of
The fifth habit for a stronger marriage is to always speak highly of your spouse. Not just sometimes but all the time. And especially when you are having a conflict with them.
Don’t run to your friends or parents and complain about your spouse. It’s not beneficial or kind. So, what do you do when you need advice on an issue?
I encourage you to have one or two trusted people to share with about a problem. As you share, always speak highly of your spouse. Focus on what you can do to help the problem not on what they should do.
Also, whenever you are out in public with your spouse, speak highly of them. Compliment your spouse, brag about them, but never put them down or complain about what they did wrong.
One at a time
The one thing I really love about marriage is there is always room to grow. Jonathan and I are still working on these habits. The past 18 years have been a blessing because of implemented these habits.
Which of the 5 habits jumped out at you? I encourage you to pick one habit to work on at a time. Once you have mastered it at least eighty percent move on to the next one. Here’s to a stronger marriage using the habits of prayer, bible reading, date nights, couch time and speaking highly of one another. I’m cheering for your marriage!
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