A Card in the Mail

The ache in my heart doesn’t really lessen any as the years go by. When July 7th comes each year, I wonder what it would have been like to see Jeremiah David fully grown. Would he have had curly hair like his siblings or would it have been straight? Would he be tall like his younger brother or short like his sister? 

July 7th is just another day on the calendar for so many people. For our family, it represents the day I miscarried our baby. The day our hopes and dreams for who would have been our second child were broken. 

Every year when the day of July 7th comes, the familiar ache finds its way to my heart. Sometimes I talk about the significance of the day with others and sometimes it hurts too much to talk about it. I often wonder if anyone remembers what happened that day.

A Card in the Mail

A day or two after July 7th this year, I received a card in the mail. At first, I wondered who it was from and instantly teared up when I saw the return address. I opened the card and wept. Why? Because someone remembered our precious baby Jeremiah. Someone remembered the life I carried and lost. 

Inside the card were the words:

May you feel peace and comfort as you remember your little one today. 

My prayers are with you still. 

And then there was a personal note:

Anastasia-

Praying over you these last several weeks as you celebrate and remember Jeremiah! You are loved! 

Because He lives I have hope,

Jessica, Hope Mom to Baby Elias

I can’t even put into words how much this card meant to me. Someone who understands the loss of a loved one took a few minutes to send me this card. Those few minutes have touched me deeply. Jessica remembered our Jeremiah. Friends, I don’t even know Jessica but she remembered and that is such a precious gift to me.

Others who are hurting

Receiving this card in the mail really challenged me to be more aware of others who are hurting from losing a loved one. We may not fully understand the depth of someone’s pain but we can help them carry it. How do we do this? 

We can send a card in the mail to let them know we remember. You may not know the exact date of when they lost someone but you can still show you care by letting them know you are thinking of them. Never underestimate the power of your words. 

Every year when July 7th comes, I remember the precious baby that we miscarried. I am so glad I don’t have to grieve alone. Thank you again to Jessica who took the time to send me a card. Thank you for remembering our Jeremiah. Sweet friends, how can you encourage someone who has lost a loved one today? Maybe it’s sending a card in the mail. Or sending a quick text to let them know you are thinking of them and praying for them.

***If you or someone you know has miscarried a baby or has experienced infant death, I encourage you to look into an organization called Hope Mommies. It is a powerful ministry that ministers to families. Click HERE for more information. Remember, you are loved and you are not alone in your pain and loss.