Ordinary Marriage to Amazing

If you would stop and take the temperature of your marriage right now, what would it be? Cold or hot? When a bible study opportunity came across, I asked myself this same question. Jonathan and I have been married 16 years and still going strong. Our marriage is a blessing though not without its challenges. So, when the bible study The Husband Project was presented to me, I jumped at the chance to see what it was all about especially if it could help our marriage to thrive even more.

I learned quickly that I needed an accountability partner to go through this book with me. In fact, Kathi Lipp, the author strongly encourages it. So, I asked a few friends and started the journey. I can honestly say our marriage is better because I read this book. You may be asking how is that possible. First, I want to encourage you to read it and find out. But, just to convince you more, I will share three key takeaways I gleaned from the book which are: change my attitude, have a servant’s heart and think about my husband.

Change my attitude

First, change my attitude. The book is called  TheHusband Project but I believe another name could be wife project. This project was more about changing my attitude about our marriage. It’s not about changing Jonathan to be what I want him to be but how I need to change me. I am the only person I can change. I needed to take a hard look at my attitude about our marriage. The projects helped me to see some things I could work on.

Have a servant’s heart

Secondly, I learned the importance of having a servant’s heart. Too often I get caught up in the kind of day I had with the kids or stuff around the house. Some days can be really tough and I am exhausted by the time Jonathan gets home. But instead of focusing on how I want to be served, I became more aware of how I could serve Jonathan. The projects gave me great ideas on how to do this.

Think about my husband

And lastly, one of the key takeaways was to think about my husband. My days can be so full of house projects, laundry, dishes, etc. that my mind can be so full of what’s next. In reading this book, I realized how much I don’t think about Jonathan. He is my number one earthly relationship, but you wouldn’t necessarily know that by my thoughts. The 21 days of projects helped me to make Jonathan even more of a priority. Each day I think about what I can do to love Jonathan better.

I am so thankful that I participated in this Bible Study. It benefited our marriage in so many ways. I am continuing to work on changing my attitude, being a servant and thinking about my husband throughout the day. I highly encourage you to get a copy of The Husband Project by Kathi Lipp. Your eyes will be open to the ways you can grow, your marriage will change and in the process, you will grow closer to God.

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