Hurry up! We have to go!
Do you find yourself in a hurry often? Do you find yourself saying to your kids, “Hurry up! We have to go!” Me too! All too often in fact. As I reflected on this more, I realized that I am the problem. It’s not my kids. Yes, they are slow to move sometimes but they aren’t the reason we are running late so much. I am the problem. Ouch! There are several conclusions I have come to:
I tried to get something done before leaving.
Guilty as charged!! I think I can get a 10-25 minute project done in the 5 minutes we have before leaving. Wrong! I end up getting frustrated at myself and then it pours onto my kids. This leads to more stress and I wonder why I even tried. Was it really worth all this to get something done?
I haven’t planned enough leave time.
I can’t expect my 9,7,4, and 3-year-old to get in the van already if I haven’t given them at least 10-15 minutes to get ready. My 9, 7 and 4-year-old move a lot quicker than they used too. But, sometimes they still can’t find the shoe they must wear or the football they want to take. And my 3-year-old, well it always seems like he picks the time before we leave to get a poopy diaper.
I didn’t plan enough time for the outing for the kids and/or myself.
Too often I’m rushing through an errand. A few months ago, I took the kids to the Dollar Tree so they could each pick something out. This process takes time, especially for my oldest daughter. Instead of constantly rushing my kids, I need to plan at least 30 minutes at the store. They have the freedom to take that time and I can be much more relaxed too instead of pressuring them to hurry up. This rings true for the library too. It takes time to pick out good books. So, I have learned to plan a lot more time for our weekly library trips.
It’s been a journey but I am slowly learning that I need to slow down and create the time for leaving. The kids are so much more relaxed when I remember this. I am choosing to take responsibility instead of blaming my kids when we are running late. It’s a process but one that I will continue to work at.
How about you? How is leave time around your house? Hopefully sharing my journey has challenged and encouraged you.
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